The Painting Table — Guest Post and Giveaway

26 Nov

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Roger Hutchison is Canon for Children’s Ministries at Trinity Episcopal Cathedral in Columbia, SC. In his vocation, he has been privileged to gather around the Painting Table with those experiencing grief in a diverse variety of ways – everything from temporary housing, drug addiction, job loss, and poverty to the challenges and blessings of childhood and the elderly. In May of 2013 he was invited to Newtown, CT to paint with the children and families of Sandy Hook. Roger’s book, The Painting Table: A Journal of Loss and Joy, releases December 1, 2013 from Church Publishing, Inc. He invites you to pull up a chair and join him at the Painting Table.

* Roger is giving away a signed copy of the book. Read on to find out how to get your name in the drawing for The Painting Table: A Journal of Loss and Joy.

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The Painting Table

It’s the place where I go to pray.

It’s the place where I go to remember.

The simple oak table belonged to my grandmother.  It was the place where she served us beautiful vegetables from her garden or fresh fish from Goodson Creek.  It is the same table that I once turned into a fort by covering the table with quilts and blankets.  I would peer underneath the edge of the draped quilt and watch the feet of those I love move around the kitchen.  Meals were being prepared.  Stories were being told.  I felt safe.  I knew love.

I remember seeing the feet of my grandparents standing side by side in front of the sink.  She would wash.  He would dry.  It was a ritual as ancient as the stars.

He died before she did, and she’s been gone now for almost ten years.  Oh how I miss her.

I also remember my friend Suth. As a child, he escaped to America from Cambodia with his family.  I had no friends.  He had no friends.  We didn’t speak the same language, but we fished together, and pretty soon the friendSHIP set sail.  We became best friends.  We became brothers — the brown boy with dark, almond-shaped eyes and the white boy with a soft body and a soft heart.

I go to the table to remember my friend.  He, too, has been gone now for almost as many years as he was alive.  I miss him.

I am an artist, and my grandmother’s kitchen table is now my painting table.  I received it when she died.

Late one evening, as I was struggling to finish a painting that I had been working on, I reached such a level of frustration, that I took my brushes and threw them into the trash.  I took my hands and put them directly into the paint.  I began to swirl and blend the colors in ways that I could never have done with a brush.  It was a grace-filled moment that lasted deep into the night.  I met God face to face that holy night.

The table has become a Eucharistic symbol for me.  It is the place where I go to paint, pray, and remember.

Painting is the way I talk to God. I find joy when I move my fingers through puddles of color and across a blank canvas. I am always surprised – and blessed — by the conversation that takes place. It is as if a good friend has joined me for glass of wine and a time of catching up.

My painting table is an actual table, but the idea of the Painting Table is more than a wooden top with four legs.  It is about the invitation.  It is about sharing our own sacred stories.  It is a safe and holy space where conversation, prayer, and healing can take place.

While there is grief, sadness, and loss, there is also hope.  There is an opportunity for celebration as we gather together, break bread, talk, and are welcomed.  Whether it is through cooking, painting, or Eucharist, we come together to remember.

What was ordinary has become extraordinary.  The same simple oak table where my grandmother would serve us delicious meals from her garden was now my Painting Table – an altar of remembrance and healing, baptized with splashes of color and tears.

* To enter to win a signed copy of Roger’s book, leave a comment telling us about something that is a Painting Table in your life. You can tell us as much or as little as you want. I’ll enter the names in Rafflecopter to draw a winner. Below are some blurbs about the book.

– “With the playful spirit of an artist and blank pages with prompts Roger Hutchison gives us permission take time to dig deeply and let our very souls talk in a language beyond words.” – Jenifer C. Gamber, author of My Faith, My Life: A Teen’s Guide to the Episcopal Church and Call on Me: A Prayer Book for Young People

– “The Painting Table is a treasure for one person or a group experiencing the grief of loss and the sacred work of living beyond goodbyes. This book is beautiful in image and moving through word and silence. As a priest and a hospital chaplain, I have witnessed the multitude of emotions that accompany grief and loss. The Painting Table is a beautiful way to meet these unorganized and deeply personal emotions through art and reflection. Many people have experienced taking their own seat at a certain ‘story-drenched’ table, learning to grow as family through the sacred act of holding on and letting go – saying hello and goodbye. Roger Hutchison’s gentle, heartfelt telling of his own loss and treasured memories touches those deep and familiar places. A wonderful resource for all seeking a safe place to remember.” — The Reverend Carrie Craig, hospital chaplain

6 Responses to “The Painting Table — Guest Post and Giveaway”

  1. J. Clarkson November 26, 2013 at 1:21 pm #

    I just got back from a run, followed by a hot bowl of soup. It’s 40 something degrees and raining steadily in the North Carolina mountains, and that’s one of my favorite times to be out tramping around. Two years ago, I injured my back and thought it might never heal enough for me to do stupid things like run around in the rain. After months of rehab, I started going for runs with a group of staff at Warren Wilson College (where Roger and I went to school together.) They were faster and more fit than I was. But they let me run with them because each of us runs better when we run together. I’ve gotten better. I’ve gotten to do be in the woods by myself and with other people, thinking and talking about mundane, profound, and obscene things. Mostly being together and doing the best we can. A painting table.

    How wonderful to come home and find that the surprise Neely had tweeted about this morning is a guest post from Roger. There’s a bit of painting happening here too!

    • neelyssimpson November 26, 2013 at 1:26 pm #

      No way! You guys know each other? It’s a small social media world. :)

  2. Matt Matthews November 26, 2013 at 1:51 pm #

    I open my lap top. I turn off my mail and bothersome ‘social’ media that often feels so isolating. I click on some music. Last week it was Rutter’s Requiem by the Cambridge Singers. Today it was a Darrell Scott/Tim O’Brien concert recorded at the Grey Eagle. I get tea. I shoo the cat off my work table that my children painted scenes on when they were very small. I look out the window and watch the trees watch me. And eventually, after untying and re-tying my shoes and doing the modern equivalent of sharpening every pencil in the house, I begin to write. And like in a Paul Simon song my soul rises unexpectedly and smiles reassuringly, and a world begins to come together on the screen, eventually (always, eventually) revealing some fantastical vision of lions laying down with lambs and swords being bent into Calder-esque mobiles and swords into serving forks, and a table of food seasoned with sage and wine surrounded by saints, living and dead, sharing stories, slapping their legs they’re laughing so hard, eyes bright and shining. Outside it is very dark and glacially cold, but the light shines in the darkness. And the story, if I ever get it written, says: WELCOME.

    Is that a painting table?

    • neelyssimpson November 27, 2013 at 10:55 am #

      Matt, that is absolutely a painting table — a painting table very similar to my own. And your writing is beautiful! We should have you do a book giveaway to promote Mercy Creek.

  3. Joy November 27, 2013 at 7:57 pm #

    My painting table is a group of dear women that do not have much in common, yet…a lot in common. We meet together in the evening once a week and have learned to love, trust, and “do” life together. We have shared grief, happiness, sorrows, “why”, “why not!” etc. The table has held up under a lot of weight…much of which has been tears of sadness and whys, but…most often – amazingly tears of happiness and joy. When I visualize a table I appreciate the true strength of the table are the legs. Strong legs can hold up a table up, no matter the weight – be it sorrow, be it total delight – those legs; they are the heart of each of us and the strength of the Trinity. Together we have helped paint – not only our own lives, but most importantly each of our lives! We also continue to share the “paint” in our community and beyond.

    • neelyssimpson December 5, 2013 at 11:21 am #

      Congratulations Joy! You are the winner of The Painting Table! Since there were three commenters, I had Sophia draw your name out of a basket. We didn’t cheat. I promise. :)

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